Is the answer more important than the question? Majority of people have been conditioned by their parents, teachers and the society to search and think of answers.
It is not easy to find people thinking about questions. Yet, the biggest mistake we make in life is not giving the wrong the answer but asking the wrong question. If we asked the right questions, we would always come up with the right answers.
Human beings are at the peak of evolution. We are the most complex creatures on the planet because of our minds. The mind has the power to transform of our lives in ways we can’t imagine. Human beings are the only creatures on the planet that can think and reflect.
The basis of reflection is self-inquiry. Self-inquiry, as the name suggests, involves asking yourself the right questions. Asking yourself questions will help you think better. Your thoughts will become words or a plan of action. Once the plan is in place, you’ll act. And your actions will reveal who you really are.
What type of words do you use? Do you encourage or discourage yourself? It’s important to be conscious of how you speak to yourself because your outer surroundings will be a reflection of your inner environment. Since questions are the foundation of your thoughts, here are ten quick questions that will change how you think.
1. What can you be happy about today?
Even if you are having the worst day of your life, there are things you can be happy about. First of all, you are alive today. You may have someone who deeply cares about you. You may have enough food, clothes and shoes. This question will stop you from focusing on the negative side of life. It’s important to see the glass as half full than half empty.
2. What problem are you thankful for not having now?
There are many problems that you could be facing right now. Thankfully, you do not have any serious problem to worry about now. Joy or misery are all your creations. Always keep in mind that negative emotions and negativity in general doesn’t pay. Being positive always pays. Choose to be happy for yourself; not for the people around you or circumstances.
3. What do you need to stop saying to yourself?
If you did something well, it’s easy to dismiss it quickly. You may start saying that luck was on your side or someone else was responsible for the job done well. You should take full responsibility for your successes and failures equally. Avoid looking down on yourself for performing poorly. Every circumstance you go through is meant to make you wiser and not miserable.
4. What do you need to let go of?
According to reports of human management experts from Zipjob, Resumewriters, letting go is one of the hardest things most adults face. Letting go does not affect most children because they usually forgive and forget quickly. “Adults tend to remember and hold on to their past. How do you know you haven’t let go of something? If you still regret or feel guilty about something, you haven’t let go. You cannot live fully if you are still holding on to the past”, says Alica Rainy from
As we said earlier, all these circumstances were there to make you wiser. You have to let go of your past today. How do you know you’ve let go? When you remember the event and you don’t feel anything about it.
5. Will take responsibility for your life or blame others?
Think of how many relationships you destroy when you blame other people. Blaming other people is a sign of immaturity. You don’t like other people blaming or criticizing you. So what makes you think another person enjoys it when you blame him or her? It’s time to take charge of your life by accepting full responsibility for everything that happens to you.
6. How can you respond and act with clarity instead of reacting?
When they are angry, most people tend to act and think later. Acting without thinking is the cause of failure and frustration in life. You have to think clearly before acting in every circumstance. You have to control your thoughts and emotions by restraining yourself and acting later. Taking the time to reflect before reacting will save your relationships and energy in the long run.
7. How can you make the world a better place?
Life is precious. It is a privilege to be a live today. Therefore, you need to give back something to society and the world. The best thing you can do with your life is improving the lives of others. There are different things you can do to improve the lives of others. Find out what you can do and just do that.
8. Are your expectations making you happy or miserable?
Expectations are good. However, when placed on other people and outer circumstances, you’ll always be disappointed. No one can fulfill all your expectations. You need to place expectations on yourself. Expect yourself to be happy. Expect yourself to improve other people’s lives. Expect yourself to achieve your goals. In life, nobody can be controlled by you. You can only control yourself.
9. Who needs my forgiveness?
Forgiveness is a way of healing yourself. You don’t forgive others to help them. You forgive others to help yourself. Holding a grudge is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Let go of the past and cultivate your relationships. Live fully today because tomorrow never comes.
10. What lesson have I learnt today?
There are many things that happened during the day. What is the most important thing you learnt today? You need to ask yourself this question every day before getting to bed. Taking the time to learn important lessons will make you wiser. And it will be difficult for you to repeat those mistakes.
Asking yourself the right questions will help you come up with the right answers that will improve your life. With these ten questions, you’ll be ready to face the world without fear or regrets.